By David Ryser
See, when you’re a little kid,
nobody ever warns you that you’ve got an expiration date. One day you’re hot
stuff and the next day you’re a dirt sandwich. (Jeff Kinney)
“Look at me! Look at me!”
What is it about young children that causes them to clamor for
attention? Children seem to need
attention desperately. I’ve known some
of them to misbehave simply to get attention…the kind of attention that any
rational human being would seek to avoid.
I can only conclude that attention is like any other form of publicity.
I’m told there is no such thing as
bad publicity.
Children…and some religious
professionals…crave attention. They have
a need to be seen. They have a need to
be heard. They have a need to be
acknowledged as important.
In short, children need to be
valued by someone…by anyone. So do
adults. And one of the most common ways
that we measure our self-worth is by how many people pay attention to us.
So we pursue attention. We prefer positive attention. But we will settle for negative attention if
we must.
And the more attention the
better. The more people who see us, the
better. The more people who hear us, the
better. The more people who attend our
church….
Well, you get the idea.
The problem with using fame as a
means to measure our value is that fame is fleeting. One day we are the center of attention. The next day, we are yesterday’s news. If you want to know just how easily you can
be forgotten…and how quickly...simply become a religious professional.
And then leave the ministry.
Of course, this dynamic applies to
everyday life as well. We seek to be
valued and admired by all kinds of people…spouses, other loved ones, employers,
co-workers…even by people we don’t know.
If we are noticed, we believe we
have value. If we are ignored, we feel
worthless.
This can be quite a roller-coaster,
mentally and emotionally. Life is full
of these ups-and-downs. Even Jesus was
not immune to this reality of life. He
experienced anonymity in His early life.
He experienced fame later in His life.
He was well-received. He was
rejected. His message and ministry were
enthusiastically accepted. His message
and ministry were opposed. He preached
to large crowds. He had hundreds of
disciples. His preaching also caused all
of these disciples…except twelve…to leave Him.
And even those twelve abandoned Him
when He needed them the most.
Reading the gospels, I am struck by
how Jesus behaved in the good times and the bad times. He didn’t seem to be influenced by how
popular He was…or how unpopular. He
remained steady when He was opposed, and even slandered. He did not seek fame or approval…with one
notable exception…and did not fear disapproval and rejection.
So what was the exception?
Throughout His life and ministry,
Jesus was concerned only with the approval of His Father. He ministered by doing only what He saw the
Father doing and saying only what He heard the Father saying. He was unmoved by the approval or disapproval
of people, but was very responsive to the Father’s pleasure.
Jesus played to an audience of One.
Jesus heard the applause of the
Father when the crowds accepted Him.
Jesus heard the Father’s applause when the crowds rejected Him. The religious leaders and religious people
never did accept Him (there’s a lesson in this, I think). Jesus even heard the applause of the Father
when His closest friends abandoned Him.
So what about us?
Do we hear the Father’s
applause? Do we go about our daily lives
in tune with what the Father is doing and saying…and how He is responding to
what we are doing and saying? No matter
what is happening around us? No matter
what people are saying about us? Whether
or not people are paying attention to us?
Whether or not people are approving of us?
And if not, then why not?
I’ve given this quite a bit of
thought because for the longest time I suffered from a peculiar form of
Attention Deficit Disorder.
Specifically, I felt I wasn’t getting enough attention from people…a
deficit of attention…and strived mightily to get it. When anyone suggested to me that I should seek
to satisfy my need for attention and sense of being valued from God, the
religious part of me would acknowledge that I ought to do so. But I was always unable to pull it off.
Why?
My problem boiled down to my lack
of knowing God and the failure of the religious system to teach me how to know
Him. In fairness, it was foolish of me
to expect my religious leaders to teach me how to know and love God. They had no more idea of how to know and love
God than I did. I believe most of them
wanted to know and love Him. So did
I. But God wasn’t real to us. None of us had experienced Him…His presence
in a real and tangible way…enough to connect with Him, much less be intimate
with Him. So we would acknowledge that
we needed to get our sense of self-worth from God and for His approval to be
enough for us, but experienced neither.
How can we play to an audience of
One without any awareness of His presence in the theater?
We can’t. It was not until I experienced God’s presence
and began to walk in an intimate relationship with Him…and became secure and
confident in that relationship…that I was able to live for His pleasure alone,
not moved by the opinions and the approval/disapproval of others. Now I am able to hear Him when the theater is
full and when it is empty. I have
learned to play to an audience of One.
And that has made all the difference.
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